It’s Alright to be Selfish

By the time you have reached 50, most women have children either in college or the children are college graduates. Gone are the days where you had to worry about school lunches, sports games or staying up late waiting for them to arrive home after a night out with friends. The good thing is the 50s is the new 40s so you are looking good at this time of your life. All you have to do is learn that it is important to take care of yourself. 

At this point in your life your body has gone through significant change. Yes, your back is starting to hurt, you are easily tired, even your eye site may have changed. Of course you notice those extra pounds you cannot seem to get rid of and most importantly your skin. Your skin is not what it used to be, especially when you start noticing the wrinkles and sagging. All of these “changes” are normal however and unfortunately we cannot change them. What we can do is if we refuse to have plastic surgery is find products that help with anti-wrinkling. 

However, in the interim one solution you can definitely work on is finding a little time for yourself. Something as simple as sitting by yourself with no interruptions for just a few minutes may be all you need. If that means you have to be a little selfish, then that is alright. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. Now is the time if you have not started to take time to relax, be better to yourself and make the necessary changes in your life to make the transition into your 50s hopefully effortlessly. 

As i already mentioned, we begin by finding a few minutes a day just to yourself. It can also be as easy as sitting down to the morning cup of coffee and not doing anything but closing your eyes and meditating. For me, what actually calms me down is during those ten minutes of “me” time, I do not answer the phone or check my emails. For me, I have found that looking through my various social media outlets is actually relaxing. I take the time to see what others have posted and I either like or comment on their photos. I do not see this as a burden or stressful. Remember that everyone is different and there is no right or wrong. For you it might be just taking a walk or listening to some soothing music in the car on the way to work or your first morning appointment. Regardless of what you do, it is necessary for you to take the time to take care of yourself.

It’s alright to indulge a little in the things that make you happy. If having sweets is your preference, then go for it. With that in mind many women worry about what others think. What if they find me fat, what if I am not stylish, what if, what if.

This is the time of your life where you do not have worry about what other people think about you. When we were in our 20s or even 30s we listened exclusively to what others said or thought about us. I am happy to say that at this stage in our lives for the most part we really do not weigh so much on how others perceive us. So, it’s alright to go out and have fun and do the things you love most. It’s alright to relax and not worry so much about things. It’s alright to have a little fun. Hang out with friends and share a cup of coffee or a glass of wine without regret.

We are more focused on family, career and health. The things that are important now were not so important back then. Obviously that will change too when we move into our 60s. But for now, we must learn to appreciate what we have, learn to relax and live healthier lives.

I know many worry about what their bodies look like now that they are in their 50s. So, obviously style is important. You can no longer shop like you used to in your 20s. Those really short skits or low cut blouses will not cut it You need to find what style fits you best based on your body type. Since at this point you have physically changed, the style you choose needs to reflect these changes. This does not mean you have to give up the outfits you once wore, you just have to know how to wear them either differently or replace them with something that best fits you. 

So, yes being selfish is alright.